There's Liberation in Limitation

 

How do you define the concept of freedom?

I suppose most people would say that it is the license to do whatever you want without much restraint.  However, just because something is permissible, doesn't mean that it is advisable or even necessarily beneficial to your overall well-being.

When we think about limits, we tend to view them as this dark looming force acting as the arch enemy of free will, oppossing our sovereignty, oppressing our liberated spirits, and stifling our desire for self-determination. If you only knew that in some cases, this view point could actually be the reason why you haven't yet fully achieved your dreams.

What I've come to realize is that there can in fact be such a thing as positive limits. I'm growing into the understanding that to achieve a certain level of personal success, most of the time setting limits and restrictions on ourselves and our behaviors is key!  Trust me, this timely revelation has allowed me of late, to happily bask in the glory of true freedom.

In my quest to mine the depths of self-discovery, I've found that some of the limits I've placed on myself have not only turned out to be positive, but they've helped me to thrive.  I'm beginning to go beyond the limits I'd previously imposed on myself, able to now push back the boundaries of what I had once thought was possible.  While digging throughout my life for the pearl of self-realization, through self-regulation, I've found my authentic self!

Flashback

Looking back on my misspent youth, it's almost comical how I devoted swathes of time studying the components of shallow living instead of attempting to develop my genuine self.  It would seem that I mastered the art of maintaining and projecting an image of how I wanted to be seen in order to satisfy the standards of others - thus forgoing any attempt to explore the properties of my own authenticity or full potential.

It's humorous how I actually viewed myself as a rebel, who fashioned himself as a nonconformist.  What I actually was, was a guy who lived a rather self-indulgent lifestyle, testing the limits of my own hedonistic capacity, while being insubordinate to my own true nature.

I sought happiness through and unquenchable amount of pleasure seeking, but never finding any true satisfaction, because I sought comfort in frivolous, noxious, and unhealthy pursuits.  My life revolved around unfavorable behaviors and habits, spending many years languishing in the shadow of who and what I hoped to become.

It turns out that I was less of the rebel I espoused to be, and more of an unfocused, undisciplined and uninspired ne'er-do-well, with foggy goals in life.  But once this withered lifestyle became far too painful to bear, I willed myself to find something that would pry me out of my rut and use it as a springboard to go beyond happiness to outright joy.

Think Inside the Box

There are certain limits that are frankly uncool, and these are the restrictions in life that we do not choose!

They are the ones that come from some man-made authority that dictates certain "do's and don't's" that don't always align with our belief systems.  Whether they are mandated to us from some institution or we picked them up doing our public schooling, these are the limits we tend to reject.

The cool limits I'm talking about, are the conscious restrictions we place on ourselves after we begin to find out who we are and what we want - and we are ready to develop laser focus in order to someday arrive at the place we want to be.

The more constraints we place on ourselves, the more free we'll be, because the lack of constrains can be paralyzing.

Living a life within the margins WE select gives our lives structure, which allows us to channel our energies and creative pursuits, directing them toward the goals we are trying to achieve.

There is a big difference between the common, in-grained limitations we readily encounter that are experienced through the lens of indecision and fear versus the ones we consciously choose through certainty and love.

Once we un-learn and shed the false information that was thrust upon us, we'll awaken to the fact that limitations are a test of our consistency, self-discipline, and willpower.  If you plant the seeds of these attributes you will undoubtedly produce positive fruit!

The limits we place on ourselves are not hinderances to our success, they are the tools that will set us free.  So use limits to live your best life imaginable.

MB

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Not Fair to Compare


"Always remember that you are absolutely unique, just like everyone else." - Margaret Mead

One of the most remarkable revelations I've ever received, was discovering just how useless comparing myself to others is.  Unfortunately, I struggled with this misconception for more years that I care to admit. 

It started around high school when I slowly began unjustly judging myself on a great number of things.  Whether it was my athletic prowess in gym class, my popularity among the student body, or my academic performance, I would regularly measure myself against the talent, charisma, and intellect of others.

This tendency lamentably lingered on into my young adulthood, where I put away my childish judgement ruler and began scrutinizing my strengths and weaknesses using a much bigger, more adult yardstick.  

I graduated to comparing job titles, income, vehicle make and models, and other worldly possessions as my perceived basic standards of success.

Too Hard on Yourself

"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Franklin Roosevelt

My tendency to compare may have worked in my favor had I used it as a motivational tool for personal growth.  Instead it became a source of pain because I took the strengths of others and compared them to my weaknesses, so it seemed to me as if I was failing.

This sort of self-criticism obviously doesn't feel good!

Self-judgement is often at the root of our pain.  We judge ourselves harshly, we judge our past, present, and future experiences, and we even judge our feelings.

From my limited and shortsighted perspective, everyone seemed to be doing better than me, as I hadn’t yet learned how to:

  • Create my own standards for success

  • Choose my own path of fulfillment

  • Set goals that were authentic and not superficial

As a result, I felt as if I were constantly marinating in a stew of disappointment, frustration, discouragement, anger, and anxiety.

The Consequence is Low Self-Confidence

"Don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle or your middle to someone else's end." - Tim Hiller

When we compare ourselves, our self-esteem takes a major hit - This could cause us to stop pursuing our goals and dreams before we even really get going.

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For example, when I first began writing picture books, I would often compare myself to other authors.  However, I made the mistake of measuring my efforts against writers who had been in the game for years - writers who had paid their dues behind the scenes and were justifiability being rewarded the fruits of their labor.  They were experiencing a level of success that took them sometimes years to gain, yet I wished to be decorated with those same accolades right out of the gate.

Was it fair to compare my beginning effort to someone else's middle effort?

Instead, of comparing, I learned to focus on my strengths - writing honest, substantive stories that have meaning for me; knowing that with some effort and patience, I would manifest what success looked like for me!

You Do You, I'll Do Me

"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." - Oscar Wilde

It's so cool that we have the ability to acknowledge the fact that so many people have a variety of talents - and when those people let their talent shine, we can all benefit from that.  However, we should try spending a little more time focusing on our own talents and strengths instead of the strengths of others.  We will be of greater service to ourselves and those whose lives we touch by developing a true awareness of our own value and self-worth.

How do we go about learning what our value is? Here's a link to The Seven Signs You Know Your Value.

Develop Resilience

"To love is to stop comparing." - Bernard Grasset

So how do we stop squandering our happiness and get out of the comparison trap?

Be aware.  We've been comparing ourselves to others for so long that it has become a bad habit.  Like other bad habits, we must first admit that we have a problem to become more conscious.  Becoming aware of the thoughts that are going through our minds helps us to identify who or what triggers our envious thoughts.  Be mindful of the fact that these thoughts add no value to our lives and STOP!

Pause.  Remember that these are real emotions that may show up every day, or even moment to moment.  Putting them in their proper place will take time and practice.  Don't beat yourself up! Acknowledge the thought and then shift focus.

Be grateful. Shift your focus back to yourself and what you’ve already been blessed with.  Count what you have and look forward to the things you plan to gain by focusing on following your unique path.

Have hope.  To compare as a source of motivation is one thing, but to "covet" is not cool! Do you admire these people, or do you want what they have?  Let's be real, you will never have exactly what they have.  It may look similar, but it will always be different.  Embrace that fact.  You can use people as motivation because they inspire you, but when you just want their "stuff" then you've entered into unhealthy territory.

The only person you should be better than, is who you were yesterday.

Remember that they are just people too, and if they can do great things, so can you.  

Don't fall for the okey-doke by allowing other people's successes to make you feel a sense of lack.  Flip the script and use comparisons as motivation to become a better person so that maybe you can use that energy to increase the joy in your own little corner of the world.

MB


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Why Do You Travel? A Dialogue With Myself


When I first moved from my parents’ place, I was actually running away, even if I wouldn't admit it to myself. Away from a place I didn’t like, from bad memories I had there, from a family that didn’t understand me. But it’s much later that I realized it, through self-reflection.  

I felt into this trap again recently. I ran away from a place where I had had a very painful memory that my mind couldn't let go off. There was other factors that made me want to leave, but nothing unbearable. I just felt this urgent need and took this spontaneous decision in a few weeks and left. I moved to another country again for a few months. I was enjoying the place there, traveling and living a new experience, but something felt wrong and I had a lot of time to think… and self-reflect. Today I’m realizing that most of my travels where some kind of escape from a reality I wasn’t happy about. Running away from myself. I didn’t appreciate myself and thought ”in a totally new place, you can be someone totally new”.

But the truth is, there’s no escape from your own mind. Wherever you go, it travels with you. There’s no escape from yourself. If you do it for bad reasons, traveling can be an endless vicious circle. You cannot spend your whole life running away. Perhaps some people do, but they never find happiness. 

I have a long-term solo trip to Asia planned soon. Obviously, I need to make things clear with myself. 

-       Why do you travel ?

I travel to see the world. To meet its people. To experience. To learn.

-       But why?

To LIVE, to feel alive. To feel richer inside. To have incredible stories to tell my grand-children and adventures to remember always. To find love. And I don’t mean love as in a person. I mean love as infinite and unconditional. Feeling in harmony with my soul.

-       So why, finally?

To be happy.

-       But why can’t you be happy at home?

Home? You mean the place where I grew up? It’s not a place where I have ever felt really happy. Perhaps this is why I travel: to find home. To me, home isn’t a place, it’s a feeling.

-       You are contradicting yourself. You agree that home isn’t a place but a feeling, yet you keep moving and looking for it in different places. If home is a feeling, that means you can find it in the place where you grew up or where you are now. 

You’ve got a point. I travel to find something that is already in me. Yet, I feel most happy when I’m getting to know other cultures, traditions and people, and this is something that I can only experience while traveling. 

-       And that is a great experience, but what about getting to know yourself? Because if you rely on external experiences to make you happy, you will always be frustrated in the end. Everything in this world is temporary. You count on traveling, on experiences, on others, on little things, but they don’t last, as much as you repeat them. You must find your "home" inside. How? By finding love in yourself. How? By loving yourself. You are the only person that you will need to bear all your life. Your own company is precious and irremplacable. You must build « home » in yourself. It doesn’t have to be walls, but a strong base for stability and a solid roof for protection. How? By taking care of your body and mind. By spending time on your own and learning to appreciate it. By practising non-judgement, trust and patience towards yourself. By realizing self-love is your most important material to build that home feeling inside. Your body is a temple that needs to be honoured and your mind is a miracle because it is awareness. Celebrate them for they are your first home. Love your home. If you travel, travel to love your home.

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Three Tips To Eat Healthily & Feel Good


 

So, this is not another post in which I am explaining what kind of diet is healthy or not.

I believe there is enough resources out there in the wide world of the internet with which you can easily decide for yourself what you believe is healthy or not. 

Also please DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING  the media, some doctor or influencer is telling you. 

The health facts and food advertisements are extremely manipulated by the food industry.

Do your own research, read your books, and most importantly !!

LISTEN TO YOUR BODY !! 

Feel what makes you feel alive and vibrant and makes you look glowy and healths and  notice what doesn't. 

I personally chose to eat only plant based foods and within that as many unprocessed whole foods as I can.

Besides that I try to stay away from sugar most of the time and I am intolerant to any kind of oil so that is not on my menu either. 

Eating that way makes me feel my best and has been really helping in healing my body, and also helps me  gradually moving  towards optimal health - physically and mentally. 

This way of choosing my food has developed over the past years and I am still experimenting a lot to find out for myself what makes me feel best and what better to not chose for my body. 

So with that I already am getting to my first point.... 

 

1. FOCUS ON WHATS MAKES YOU FEEL BEST NOT LOOK BEST

HEALTH OVER LOOKS 

Most people "want" to eat healthy because they want to lose weight, be skinny, be fit, be pretty...etc ... etc. 

Our society has the tendency to make us believe that our selfworth is attached to outter circumstances such as our appearance.

Let me tell you, your selfworth is untouchable and also if you can't find it in yourself you will never find on the outside. 

Believe me, I was the fittest I have ever been and did beach modeling in Sydney...

But my self-esteem was low AF.

Now I am not as skinny and toned anymore, but I love myself  for who I am and feel most energized, free and happy in a long time and that is how you want to approach it. 

When you chose to be healthy because you believe a change in our outter appearance will change your inner world -

yes, do eat healthy because it helps clearing the mind and getting you into better health 

 BUT look for another solution for the mental and emotional problem and try to approach this mind structure from within,because this is the only way and working from the outside will never bring you longterm improvement and happiness.  

Eat healthy because you want to FEEL your best, because you want to appreciate the human vessel of flesh which carries you around this world and make sure that the motor runs smoothly and it stays fresh for long. 

This mindset will make you walk this way WAAAYYY longer, because the intention is less superficial. 

Focus on the health and feeling part, because when you get in touch with yourself and find an authentic way of living that attunes with your physical body you will automatically get into the most optimal shape your body can be and glow from health. 

 

2.  FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU ! YOUR BODY KNOW BEST ! 

There is about a million different opinions on what is healthy and not. But every opinion that you hear from somebody else is an information they believe to be true because they either are payed or experienced it on their own bodies.

Fact is, our bodies and lifestyles are so different from each other.

So, of course as in everything there is no "One size fits all" in a world of individuals. 

So my tip for you is to go on a journey with YOUR BODY,

be curious and observe. 

Take in information from resources and people but don't just swallow.

Try it out, be critical, find out for yourself what does work for you ?

what makes you feel great ?

what makes you feel bad ? etc...

Trust in your bodies signals. 

This system is so much smarter than we think and when you learn to listen to it, it tells you exactly what it needs to thrive. 

 

3. SUSTAINABILITY (Balance and Fun) IS KEY!

As I said before there is a million opinions and diets out there...

But why do none of these work ? 

Its all quick fixes. 

We always want solutions NOW and ASAP. 

But that is not how our body works. 

I can promise you and you can see it all around you : quick fixes do backfire.

So when you decide to do changes in your diet ask yourself again: 

Am I doing this to feel good or look good  ?

( a person that feels good and healthy looks good and healthy)

Do I want to be doing that 50 years from now ? 

If the answer to that is no, you know that your diet choice is not sustainable and earlier or later you will brake. 

Calorie restriction is the best example for it.

Yes, it will maybe work for a while, but hunger is a signal your body can't tolerate. 

It will suffer under your willpower for a while, but at some point it will get what it needs to stay alive and binge eating is obviously the result to this physical dilemma you are putting your body in.

So rather move more slowly , look for the sustainable health not for the quick fix and in the long run you will be more healthy,happy and beautiful than with any diet out there. 

Besides that you need to believe that you are putting everything with best intentions in your body. Because you LOVE IT.

Because you want to do good for it !

With believing in your best intentions and in your bodies ability to thrive and glow, you are getting one step closer to your goal, because you truly can change the intention and structure of your food only by thoughts ( water crystal experiment - more info in my "inspiration list post"). 

That also means, have a treat every now and then, but when you have it ENJOY and CELEBRATE it instead of beating yourself up in your mind.

This is balance and this is selflove - 

Yes, this is much harder than signing up for a weightloss program but this will not only improve your health and looks sustainably, but your relationship to yourself and your life quality. :) 

I hope I was able to send some inspiration or help your way with these tips, which I find really helpful. They really do work great for me in working on getting closer and closer to my optimal health, feeling energized to do everything I want in my live  and having fun during the process. 

xxx Mahalo 

Prioritizing Positivity Not Perfection


“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”  - Jiddu Krishnamurti

Upon finding an article where Mila Kunis stated that it's 'bizarre how everyone has the same facial features now', I related to her sentiments in a sad way. The truth is there always have been certain trends within the make-up/beauty world. But when I look around the world at the moment, it seems to be less about enhancing your own already beautiful features, but about instead changing them entirely. It's dismal seeing an army of people unaccepting of their own beauty and favouring to alter their features.

As a young woman, who wants to live a free and fulfilling life to the best of my abilities, I've begun to navigate what are the necessities to my happiness. Our exterior bodies are beautiful creations, but it’s our words and actions that can touch peoples lives. We should prioritize what we do, and not how we look. What feeds the soul is love, friendships, passion, peace and following your dreams. I do realise that make-up and hair are incredible art forms and there are many artists I admire in those areas. Although indulging in enhancing our best features through make-up and being creative is an important part of a lot of peoples lives, we should be making sure we don’t place too much worth on this.

A recent movement by Jameela Jamil, 'I Weigh' shone a light on how there are so many more important things than our looks; personal growth, recovery progress, friends, family and just having fun and adventuring. The instagram page was born out of a concern for the issues around self esteem problems. Combating a culture that would rather see women worry about their weight rather than flourishing in their talents.

“Every minute we spend thinking about how thin and gorgeous and perfect we aren’t, is a moment that we aren’t thinking about growing our business or our education, or our family or the fun in our lives.”

I once did focus and put a lot of pressure on the way I looked when I was younger. This lead to me edging away from my true self, trying to look like who I thought was beautiful, rather than realising I was beautiful. Instead of having a healthy, loving, accepting view of myself, it was an unhappy egotistical energy that held me back.

In our superficial society we are often told that our likeability is determined by our looks. This leads to self esteem issues and a never ending cycle of trying to reach an unrealistic goal among many young people. I’ve found I’ve almost had to unlearn the lies that have filtered through modern media and into my brain. I understand photo-shopping, light, make-up and how much work and effort can go into making people look a certain way for just one photo. Therefore now I can fairly judge myself and others, and not make unfair comparisons to the fake beauty standards of Victoria's Secret and celeb selfies.

Being comfortable in your own skin may be a slow process but it’s so rewarding. It may be a bit of a battle but you have to remember there's a lot of money in the business of making you feel bad about your body. You've got to fight the urge to judge yourself too harshly. When you begin to realise the world doesn’t fall apart when it sees you in your natural form, you’ll have more clarity and confidence within yourself. Maybe you'll even feel a better connection with the world, as nothing in nature apologises for the way it looks, it just lives.

If you focus inwards, you can see where your true self thrives. When you're truly happy in your skin, you won't need to hide it or change it. The more we connect with our souls and less with our eyes, the more we can make genuine connections with people and grow within ourselves. Rather than when we put all our energy into our exterior looks, consuming and worrying about things that make us look like the current version of attractiveness. We're focusing on something other than what serves our soul, our dreams, ambitions or the people around us.

I am in no way saying make up is a negative thing in itself, wear as little or as much as you prefer to. It's a fabulous art form, and you can create all sort of funky looks. Just don't use it to hide yourself. Don't fall into the trap of the cult of perfection. Focusing so harshly on your exterior is a waste of your time. Time that could’ve been used on enjoying your life and feeding your soul with magical experiences.

 

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A GUIDE TO Manifesting: BRINGING YOUR DESIRES TO LIFE.


What if I told you that you could manifest your will through focused intent and mindful living? Would you believe me?
Well, you have the power to manifest your will through focused intent and mindful living! It’s a difficult concept to fully understand at first but I promise you, you are more powerful than you realize and you are fully capable of achieving this phenomenon. However, its very important to work with an open mind and a true belief that you are powerful enough to alter your own reality.

I’d first like to say that I feel that many concepts in religion can be looked at beneath a different scope and the same concepts are generally true, even in a different context. So what is manifesting?
Call it a prayer, call it a spell or a wish, call it manifesting but whatever you call it, it’s principles are the same (at least as I understand them). You have a want or a need and you are trying to communicate that want to the universe or to a god or goddess. So what’s really happening here? Opinions tend to differ from person to person but to begin your understanding, there are seven beliefs for manifesting.


1. There is an invisible but knowable life force within you.

2. Your thoughts are something that you control and they originate within you.

3. There are no limits other than the ones you place on yourself.

4. Your life has purpose.

5. Overcome weakness by leaving it behind.

6. When you begin to examine what you believe to be possible, you can then change your life.

7. You can go beyond logic.



So what does all of that mean and how does that help you to begin to manifest? Well there are no easy answers and the easiest way to begin is to start taking these principles to heart. Work them into your life and your mind wherever possible and you will begin to notice a difference in the way that you are able to perceive our universe. There is an ancient saying in hermeticism from which we can derive what magick really is. “As above, So below.” Roughly explained, it means that Earth mirrors heaven, man mirrors god, the macrocasm mirrors the microcosm. Or put more simply, that our inner worlds are a mirror image of our outer world. There is no real difference between them, other than the barriers we project onto them. If you are able to achieve a deep understanding of your self and your reality, then all paths before you become clear. Magick then becomes understanding our own energies and the energy of others and the world, and how we choose to interact with those energies. Whether that’s through prayer, spellwork, wishing or meditation. When you can clearly see the variety of paths that stretch ahead of you, you can then impart your own will and energy to achieve what you want. The steps for manifesting are very simple and include:

1. Know very clearly what it is that you want.

2. Understand that you have limits, know what they are.

3. Create or focus your energy by visualizing what you want to occur, occurring.

4. Slow grounding and a return to everyday life.


It’s important to note that results are easier to obtain reliably with practice and experience. However, there are some reasons that you may have some trouble with your results. Your message or will may not have been clear or focused enough. It’s very difficult to manifest just a general want. You need to be very specific. Picture the desired outcome very clearly unfolding in your mind. Have you allowed enough time to pass? I know, the pop culture makes it seem as though your results are instant, and trust me, we all wish that this were the case but its just not realistic. Change takes time to grow from where it is in the present moment, to where you want it to be at your desired result. Think of the wish you send out as a seed being planted. It needs time to sprout and grow before it can bloom and bear fruit! Perhaps you are allowing outside opinions or even your own to cloud your judgement and focus. Probably the most important part of trying to manifest your will is truly believing in yourself. If you allow any self doubt in for any reason, then it will be very difficult for your message to be clear and focused. Finally, were you working from a place of illness, desperation, or uncertainty? As with anything that you do in life, the physical and intangible energy that you put into your actions can drastically change your results. Be sure to work from a calm, strong and focused place within yourself for the best results.

Manifesting is all about the transfer of energy and how it flows within us and throughout our universe. One of the ways that is most often recommended to open yourself up to receiving and experiencing that energy is through meditation and mindfulness. Meditation can be tricky for some people (although its important to remember that it can take a lot of practice before you are able to meditate for any length of time.) but there are plenty of other ways you can open yourself up to the flow of energy. Listen to your favourite music, loud. Allow yourself to get lost in it and revel in that feeling of freedom. Close your eyes, standing with your feet together. Focus on where your balance is and recenter it. Lay flat on your back (preferably on he ground but anywhere will do) and feel how expansive the earth is beneath you. You can also try to focus on removing the barriers that you use to separate yourself from our universe. You are not in the universe, you are a piece of it. Lean into that feeling whenever possible. My personal favourite trick for this is to carry a stone or wear a piece of jewelry that reminds me of this in the times when I struggle to remember it on my own.

Here’s a quick little exercise that you can use to help you get started with manifestation. I have personally found this method helpful to get me into the right mindset asI begin my day. As an added bonus, you can hardly go wrong with hydrating! Hooray for getting two birds with one stone! All you need is a glass of water. (Because water is pure energetically, you can use it as an empty magical canvas to imprint your intent on.) Continue to focus your intent on the water. It can be helpful to use visualization techniques such as imagining your intent appearing within the water and diffusing throughout it as a bright light or inky mass. Whatever helps you to solidify the image in your mind. When you feel satisfied, drink up! Drink the whole glass and feel the power move through you as you charge yourself energetically with your intent. What I love about this exercise is that it is easy, quick and doesn’t require many materials. This makes it super easy to keep discreet if you wish and also easy enough for anyone to attempt. You could also customize it further by choosing an herbal tea which has associations that align with the intent you want to imprint on your water.

We are strong enough to hold each other up and heighten our perspective collectively as a society. We need to encourage people to look within themselves for answers. There is very little room for a spiritual lifestyle or belief system in our western culture but I feel as though we are on the brink of a shift in perspective within our societies. Be brave enough to forge your own path even if you feel a little scared and possibly even a little crazy at first. Don’t worry, we’re all mad here.
To sum up the points I’ve made here and because it feels right to credit the pieces that spur me to write, here’s a quote from an unknown author who inspired me today to share this information with you.

“Many of us step foot on the path to spiritual enlightenment expecting it to lead us onward and upward, hoping to become something better than we are, and ready to gather all of the important things we will need along the way. What a surprise it is when we eventually realize that the path isn’t taking us onward and upward but inward. That we’re not gathering things so much as letting them go, and that there was never anything more to aspire to than the truth of that we already are.”

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5 Tips For Being Eco-Friendly 🌍


The majority of people - excluding Trump (but who's surprised?) - know that climate change is REAL. Nature is at the core of our lives, the trees give us clean air, water hydrates and cleanses us and the crops we need to eat. Ultimately where it thrives it creates a shelter and serenity for people and animals.  As humans we've already favored tearing down wild terrains for our comfortable, cold constructions. Everyday we contribute massively to polluting our atmosphere and creating huge amounts of waste. Our beautiful world is collapsing in chaos, and we are accountable.

The situation can make us feel very small, as we may think, "what can I as a single human being really do to revert the change?" We can’t change what’s already been done – but we can prevent the climate from growing so rapidly for the worse! If you want to research the subject thoroughly and become immersed in living a waste-free life, then I encourage you! I know this year I need to take the plunge to protect future earthlings!

We all need to start somewhere and being socially aware of climate change and making a few choices in day-to-day life could be the place to start. I will give you 5 tips of how to cut down on the crap:

  1. SOLID SOAP (shampoo too!) – Lots of our hair, body and beauty products are packaged in plastic. Most of us wash pretty regularly which means it’s creating a lot of rubbish. Switch to a solid soap, and I promise it’ll smell just as serene in the shower! I suggest LUSH Karma soap (my mum got my boyfriend this one, and it fills up the whole bathroom with the patchouli scent when he showers, mm!) or you can get Palmolive solid soaps and other brands at supermarkets pretty cheap! For sensitive skin people out there, choose LUSH soaps, as they miss out the SLS (sundaresan lathering agent) from their soaps which makes it gentler on skin – and they usually last longer too!
  2. REUSABLE CUPS/BOTTLES – Imagine how much plastic waste we create if every time we’re out and get thirsty we buy a plastic water bottle, plus all those coffee cups and plastic lids you use daily before work. Be less wasteful and get yourself a reusable coffee cup and water bottle (you could get one that works simultaneously). You can find some beautiful bamboo coffee cups from Ecoffee Cup. If you’re on a budget like me, I found a reusable coffee cup for $2 from Target (Australia’s Primark).  I grabbed my water bottle from a sports shop on sale, but if you like to fancy things up you can go further and choose one with a fruit infuser or funky design. Make sure it’s one that you like so much you’ll remember to pack it in your bag daily!
  3. REUSE, RECYCLE AND REDUSE WASTE – Try to get in a habit of always recycling any plastic/cardboard/glass you use. You should have a designated recycling bin in your home and try to recycle even the small things like teabag tags. Recycling is a good first step, but buying zero waste products, or products with very little waste is the way to go! This could be little things like swapping from teabags, to loose tea. Try to reuse things too, look into some DIY projects like making little plant pots from old cans.
  4. SWITCH UP YOUR STRAW – Pick up a metal reusable straw, they’re reasonably priced and the one I bought from Teros came with a straw cleaner! It means you’ll avoid the lipstick smudges when you’re out for drinks, but will more importantly, be avoiding contributing to the mound of plastic straw trash. You might feel awkward doing it, but you can ask the barman serving you or waiter in the cafe to not give you a straw. This’ll make them aware too, as they might not have thought of the environmental impact of plastic straws.
  5. OP' SHOPPING – Charity shopping is commonly consumed these days. It used to have a kind of negative connotation, and people were embarrassed to shop in charity stores, as it was meant to be a sign that they were worse off. Now it’s allll the rage, and vintage shopping is almost like a hobby for some people. You can find so many beautiful, funky pieces if you rake around for a while. Next time you need something, think to yourself – can I pick it up from a charity shop? Also, instead of chucking out clothes, please give them into your local charity shop! The piece of clothing that doesn’t quite fit, or the accessories you’re bored of, someone will be in need of. This helps fight against fast fashion, and means you’re reusing instead of purchasing more & more materials every time you fancy something fashionable.

 

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How to Create Healthy Habits


The saying “old habits die hard” has been striking me quite hard lately. Since changing my entire life by moving here I have been trying to work on forming good habits to give my life a little more stability and growth. Hawaii tends to make you feel a little too relaxed, complacent if you will. I became so engulfed in the feeling of going with the flow that I felt my life had become quite stagnant. I was no longer writing regular blog posts, I no longer had a set workout/yoga routine and I was getting literally quite sick of my eating habits. When I tried to throw myself head first (like I do with everything) into new habits I failed miserably. I wanted to know why us humans struggle sometimes our entire life with simple habits that we may have never consciously realized we formed. What I found and put to the test was a few different things, hopefully these tips help you in the same way they helped me.

FOCUS ON CREATING NEW HABITS, NOT ELIMINATING OLD ONES:
I watched a Ted Talk starring Charles Duhigg on habits, and I am patiently waiting for his book ‘The Power of Habit’ to come in the mail so I can soak in more of his knowledge. The first thing that stood out to me was when he talked about how difficult it is to end a habit when you’re entire focus is on just that. When I am constantly thinking about how much I don’t want to do this particular thing I end up doing it in the end because it’s all I can think about. It actually has proven to be more effective more me to just place my focus on an entirely new habit I want to form in order to replace the old. When my thoughts aren’t being entirely consumed by this I find it’s much easier for me to stay away from it.

SCHEDULE/BUY A PLANNER:
Another thing that has helped me tremendously is scheduling. This was hard for me to accept because I am so rebellious even toward myself sometimes. I was stuck in this ‘free-spirited’ mindset so much so that I didn’t even want to tell myself what I had to do. Watching another Ted Talk about achieving personal goals by breaking them up into manageable tasks every day pushed me to go buy a planner. I can’t count how many times I have said I needed to get something done but completely put it off because thinking about the entire thing seemed downright exhausting. If I keep my to do list in my head it tends to seem a little overwhelming, forcing me to not even start it in the first place. Listing each task out, each day and balancing it out with downtime makes it so much easier for me to achieve. There’s also such a pleasing feeling that goes hand in hand with finishing your day off knowing you did everything you planned to.

DON'T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF:
I think the most important thing to practice when changing habits is self-love and patience. Sometimes we are trying to reverse habits that we formed over years, and expecting them to go away overnight may be a tad unrealistic. I find that when I have slipped up I am more prone to slipping up again if I am too hard on myself for it. Negativity towards myself has never led to huge improvements in my life.

I hope these simple tips help you as much as they helped me.

Love and Light

Kindra Rae

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Now Is the Time


We won’t be here forever and this, we need to keep in mind. One day, we will watch the sunset for the last time. The pink will swirl with the orange and before we know it, the sky will be sparkling with stars. We won’t know that we watched our last sunset. We will be excited for the next one, and it will come, but not for us. Our eyes will close happily remembering the blazing colors that faded to pastel and then to darkness.

One day, we will get on a plane for the last time. We will arrive home from a wonderful trip, telling our loved one’s stories of the coffee we drank and the beautiful hikes we took. Years may pass and we will keep wanting to go explore a different country and to see the sunrise from a plane window again, but we will not go. Our summers become booked and busy with family picnics and trips to the nearest beaches so we don’t take another trip because we are happy right where we are. The day will come when taking a plane to visit a foreign country won’t be an option for our old bones and tired hearts and so we die happily, remembering the plane rides we did take and how fun the summers at home were.

One day, everything we want to do during our lifetime will not be an option anymore. We will want to tell the story of how we danced barefoot in the grass at sunset with our friends to our favorite music, savoring the light blue of the sky with our youthful eyes. We will want to look at old photographs from the trip where our flight was cancelled and we had to sleep in the airport overnight. We will want to have loved more people and visited more places. We will want to have had more adventures. We will wish that we hadn’t wasted time being afraid, putting things off until another time, and playing life safe by staying in our comfort zone.

Now is the time to make sure that you fulfill the wishes of your eighty-year-old self. Now is the time to book the flight. Now is the time to watch the last bits of light in the February sky fade into the night. Now is the time to go out into the world leaving every last bit of fear behind because this is our life, and we must live it.

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Renewal


Is your heart clogged?

Filled to the brim with emotions

Past moments from 5 minutes, 5 months, 5 years ago that still haunt you 

Sitting in your heart unable to be released from their prison

Resurfacing at any moment begging to be set free

But instead you dive into the memory reliving every emotion felt

Escaping the present to relish in the past 

Without realizing that you are also trapped 

Caged in an endless cycle of old emotions dominating your present self

To be free of this cycle, you must forgive

Every past moment shackled to your heart is begging for your forgiveness 

You must find the courage to grant it 

Acknowledge, forgive, let go 

 

With the new moon on the horizon, the waning crescent provides us a time to renew our souls to prepare for the next moon phase. We must dive inward to discover and examine any blocks, fears, or worries that are in our hearts in order to free ourselves. By illuminating our blockages, we allow our souls to cleanse themselves freeing us to completely embody our true selves. 

When a painful memory resurfaces, you must not engage with it rather sit above actively acknowledging it simultaneously visualizing the memory leaving your body. The moment it begins to exit your heart forgive yourself and the people or things associated with the memory. Forgiveness will not only ensure a complete exit, but also a weight off your soul.

In meditation, you should focus on these painful blockages bringing them to the surface of your psyche. As they emerge, you must (again) forgive those involved and imagine a blinding light consuming the memories releasing them from your soul. 

We must always actively acknowledge, forgive, and let go to ensure a clog-free heart. 

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Moon Goddess


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At dusk, night or dawn
Oh, my dear moon! Guide my way
Full or on your way
Illuminate the path my heart seeks
When new
I shall dive in this infinite ocean of sparkling lights you call home
Upon the day that shines bright or dim
My flowery soul shall find details to marvel at
And upon your warming return
My self shall expand further into your light

@carinafirkowski