Prioritizing Positivity Not Perfection


“If you begin to understand what you are without trying to change it, then what you are undergoes a transformation.”  - Jiddu Krishnamurti

Upon finding an article where Mila Kunis stated that it's 'bizarre how everyone has the same facial features now', I related to her sentiments in a sad way. The truth is there always have been certain trends within the make-up/beauty world. But when I look around the world at the moment, it seems to be less about enhancing your own already beautiful features, but about instead changing them entirely. It's dismal seeing an army of people unaccepting of their own beauty and favouring to alter their features.

As a young woman, who wants to live a free and fulfilling life to the best of my abilities, I've begun to navigate what are the necessities to my happiness. Our exterior bodies are beautiful creations, but it’s our words and actions that can touch peoples lives. We should prioritize what we do, and not how we look. What feeds the soul is love, friendships, passion, peace and following your dreams. I do realise that make-up and hair are incredible art forms and there are many artists I admire in those areas. Although indulging in enhancing our best features through make-up and being creative is an important part of a lot of peoples lives, we should be making sure we don’t place too much worth on this.

A recent movement by Jameela Jamil, 'I Weigh' shone a light on how there are so many more important things than our looks; personal growth, recovery progress, friends, family and just having fun and adventuring. The instagram page was born out of a concern for the issues around self esteem problems. Combating a culture that would rather see women worry about their weight rather than flourishing in their talents.

“Every minute we spend thinking about how thin and gorgeous and perfect we aren’t, is a moment that we aren’t thinking about growing our business or our education, or our family or the fun in our lives.”

I once did focus and put a lot of pressure on the way I looked when I was younger. This lead to me edging away from my true self, trying to look like who I thought was beautiful, rather than realising I was beautiful. Instead of having a healthy, loving, accepting view of myself, it was an unhappy egotistical energy that held me back.

In our superficial society we are often told that our likeability is determined by our looks. This leads to self esteem issues and a never ending cycle of trying to reach an unrealistic goal among many young people. I’ve found I’ve almost had to unlearn the lies that have filtered through modern media and into my brain. I understand photo-shopping, light, make-up and how much work and effort can go into making people look a certain way for just one photo. Therefore now I can fairly judge myself and others, and not make unfair comparisons to the fake beauty standards of Victoria's Secret and celeb selfies.

Being comfortable in your own skin may be a slow process but it’s so rewarding. It may be a bit of a battle but you have to remember there's a lot of money in the business of making you feel bad about your body. You've got to fight the urge to judge yourself too harshly. When you begin to realise the world doesn’t fall apart when it sees you in your natural form, you’ll have more clarity and confidence within yourself. Maybe you'll even feel a better connection with the world, as nothing in nature apologises for the way it looks, it just lives.

If you focus inwards, you can see where your true self thrives. When you're truly happy in your skin, you won't need to hide it or change it. The more we connect with our souls and less with our eyes, the more we can make genuine connections with people and grow within ourselves. Rather than when we put all our energy into our exterior looks, consuming and worrying about things that make us look like the current version of attractiveness. We're focusing on something other than what serves our soul, our dreams, ambitions or the people around us.

I am in no way saying make up is a negative thing in itself, wear as little or as much as you prefer to. It's a fabulous art form, and you can create all sort of funky looks. Just don't use it to hide yourself. Don't fall into the trap of the cult of perfection. Focusing so harshly on your exterior is a waste of your time. Time that could’ve been used on enjoying your life and feeding your soul with magical experiences.

 

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Easter Encouragement.


It’s springtime which means new life, fresh starts, and the sunshine blooming through (hopefully). It means forgiveness of others and ourselves. New birth symbolising letting go and looking forward.

Growth is always happening through challenges and changes in our lives, and through the really amazing parts too. We may learn to accept the past, be growing into ourselves, or growing with someone we love.

I hope you are all looking back this weekend and see how far you have come. If you feel like you’ve hit a wall – remember where you started. Inspiration can occur at any moment, so remember to keep your eyes peeled and your mind eager. If there’s something you’ve been putting off – start it! If there’s a million ideas running around your head – write them down!

Take some time to think about where you are in your life, where you want to be and how you can get there. Reach out to the people around you and ask for help.

“An optimist is the human personification of Spring” – Susan J.

Bissonette.

So as the sun breaks through try to think more positively of yourself and what you could achieve.

Also, I hope you all eat some Easter treats and spend some time with special peeps.

5 Tips For Being Eco-Friendly 🌍


The majority of people - excluding Trump (but who's surprised?) - know that climate change is REAL. Nature is at the core of our lives, the trees give us clean air, water hydrates and cleanses us and the crops we need to eat. Ultimately where it thrives it creates a shelter and serenity for people and animals.  As humans we've already favored tearing down wild terrains for our comfortable, cold constructions. Everyday we contribute massively to polluting our atmosphere and creating huge amounts of waste. Our beautiful world is collapsing in chaos, and we are accountable.

The situation can make us feel very small, as we may think, "what can I as a single human being really do to revert the change?" We can’t change what’s already been done – but we can prevent the climate from growing so rapidly for the worse! If you want to research the subject thoroughly and become immersed in living a waste-free life, then I encourage you! I know this year I need to take the plunge to protect future earthlings!

We all need to start somewhere and being socially aware of climate change and making a few choices in day-to-day life could be the place to start. I will give you 5 tips of how to cut down on the crap:

  1. SOLID SOAP (shampoo too!) – Lots of our hair, body and beauty products are packaged in plastic. Most of us wash pretty regularly which means it’s creating a lot of rubbish. Switch to a solid soap, and I promise it’ll smell just as serene in the shower! I suggest LUSH Karma soap (my mum got my boyfriend this one, and it fills up the whole bathroom with the patchouli scent when he showers, mm!) or you can get Palmolive solid soaps and other brands at supermarkets pretty cheap! For sensitive skin people out there, choose LUSH soaps, as they miss out the SLS (sundaresan lathering agent) from their soaps which makes it gentler on skin – and they usually last longer too!
  2. REUSABLE CUPS/BOTTLES – Imagine how much plastic waste we create if every time we’re out and get thirsty we buy a plastic water bottle, plus all those coffee cups and plastic lids you use daily before work. Be less wasteful and get yourself a reusable coffee cup and water bottle (you could get one that works simultaneously). You can find some beautiful bamboo coffee cups from Ecoffee Cup. If you’re on a budget like me, I found a reusable coffee cup for $2 from Target (Australia’s Primark).  I grabbed my water bottle from a sports shop on sale, but if you like to fancy things up you can go further and choose one with a fruit infuser or funky design. Make sure it’s one that you like so much you’ll remember to pack it in your bag daily!
  3. REUSE, RECYCLE AND REDUSE WASTE – Try to get in a habit of always recycling any plastic/cardboard/glass you use. You should have a designated recycling bin in your home and try to recycle even the small things like teabag tags. Recycling is a good first step, but buying zero waste products, or products with very little waste is the way to go! This could be little things like swapping from teabags, to loose tea. Try to reuse things too, look into some DIY projects like making little plant pots from old cans.
  4. SWITCH UP YOUR STRAW – Pick up a metal reusable straw, they’re reasonably priced and the one I bought from Teros came with a straw cleaner! It means you’ll avoid the lipstick smudges when you’re out for drinks, but will more importantly, be avoiding contributing to the mound of plastic straw trash. You might feel awkward doing it, but you can ask the barman serving you or waiter in the cafe to not give you a straw. This’ll make them aware too, as they might not have thought of the environmental impact of plastic straws.
  5. OP' SHOPPING – Charity shopping is commonly consumed these days. It used to have a kind of negative connotation, and people were embarrassed to shop in charity stores, as it was meant to be a sign that they were worse off. Now it’s allll the rage, and vintage shopping is almost like a hobby for some people. You can find so many beautiful, funky pieces if you rake around for a while. Next time you need something, think to yourself – can I pick it up from a charity shop? Also, instead of chucking out clothes, please give them into your local charity shop! The piece of clothing that doesn’t quite fit, or the accessories you’re bored of, someone will be in need of. This helps fight against fast fashion, and means you’re reusing instead of purchasing more & more materials every time you fancy something fashionable.

 

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